The man who wanted to be happy
The man who wanted to be happy
From Laurent Gounelle (2008)
“We are what we think. With our thoughts, we build our world“. Buddha
It is difficult to synthesize a novel without deflowering it. Also summarized below, the main axes of the structure of the novel that can be seen consistent with the usual approaches to personal development.
Motivation:
“I did not want to leave Bali without having met him”
Beliefs:
“Others tend to see you as you see yourself”. “When you believe something about yourself, whether it’s positive or negative, you act in a way that reflects that thing.” “While his attitude is simply the result of deep conviction, buried in him, that he has no impact on the world around him and can get nothing from others. He will not even be aware of believing that. For him, that’s the way it is, the reality, its reality. ”
Body and mind:
“It’s not about telling people what they want to hear that we support them to evolve,” he said with a smile. In the West you have the habit of separating body and mind. Here, we think that the two are intimately linked and form a coherent whole. ”
Benevolence:
“Hans wasn’t a poor guy. He did not want to hurt me. He was just hermetic to few things »
Commitment:
“It is necessary that you do what I ask you, as far as you don’t have refused it. If you just rely on me and listen to me, there will not be so much things happening. ”
Relativity:
“You could not describe the whole reality around you. This is normal: it includes billions of pieces of information, and you have not captured them all. You only perceived part of the reality. “Our beliefs will lead us to filter reality, it means to filter what we see, hear and feel. “… this filter that leads us to especially see the details going in the direction of what we believe … so that it reinforces our beliefs. The circle is complete. ”
Interpretation:
“your beliefs will help you identify an interpretation: a smile will be perceived as a sign of friendship, seduction or mockery, condescension. “What you believe about the world leads you to make sense of anything ambiguous or uncertain. ”
“Before our next meeting:
– Write down everything that prevents you from realizing your dream of a happy life.
– Climb Mount Skouwo »
“As I told you last time, we can not judge a belief, but we can look at its effects.
Assertion (of self) and communication:
“it is not the message that can upset, but the way to convey it, to formulate it. ”
Setting goals (SMART):
“With my project, I have positive emotion, but no specific action plan”. “Then just find out how to get the skills you need.”
To know how to ask, to learn chess, to make choices and to do without the rest (the choice, the effort and the sacrifice):
“I am afraid to be rebuffed, so I prefer not to take the risk”
The look of the others : …
Value, meaning and harmony (congruence): …
Anchoring and practice: …
